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Mistaken miscarriage

Posted by: 6PR | 23 August, 2012 - 3:31 PM
The letter Dave's partner received.

Dave and his partner received a letter from the WA Health Department yesterday outlining the process of cremation for stillborn babies born less than 28 weeks gestation and acknowledging the couple’s recent ‘loss’. Fortunately for Dave, he and his partner had a happy, healthy baby girl who was born full term. Dave told Howard Sattler this mistake has been very distressing for his family.

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  • I wish you where right Jane ,but unfortunately my wife & i lost our little Jess at 20 weeks when the doctor hit him with the needle during an amnio.He failed to mention it at the time or even after for that matter .They let my wife go on her way thinking everything was fine .However when we returned 10 days later for an ultrasound the doctor was not there and the nurse called for 2 more nurses when she opened my wifes file ."They knew what had happened" .The nurse turned the machine on and after about 5 seconds ,said sorry we don't have a heartbeat .In shock and devastated they took us too a tiny little room and advised us that a counseller would be with us shortly ,an hour and 45 mins later we left ,no body said a thing as we left .It was deadset cold ,gutless and heartless on their behalf .That was 13yrs ago and we haven't been able to conceive again .It still hurts today .

    Boj Monday 27 August, 2012 - 4:59 PM
  • Oh please yes the hospital made a mistake.But to say its been so distressing for the family.Try actually losing your baby.Try giving birth to a child that you know is going to be a stillborn.Try having to make the decision on whether to go fullterm because your baby is too sick to survive when she is born let alone surviving a full term pregnancy.Then you can tell me you are distressed.You obviously have a very alive baby you have given birth to and taken home.Cuddled,fed.clothed.Some people don`t get that opportunity.

    R Saturday 25 August, 2012 - 1:41 PM
  • "My wife is suffering quite a lot...." ????? Try being the family who has lost the baby - then you'd know what suffering is, like we do - we lost our son last December, we didn't get to show him off when he was a week old like your wife was able to yesterday. Yes King Edward has made a mistake and the letter shouldn't have been sent to you but going on about how much you and your wife is suffering is abhorrent when every day there are families who really are suffering after the loss of a precious baby. King Edward provides excellent care, counselling, psychological and follow-up services for these devastating situations and a letter is sent following discussion as parents understandably cannot take everything in during such a traumatic time. Try and put a little bit of perspective back in your life and be thankful you have a beautiful healthy baby at home with you.

    Jane Thursday 23 August, 2012 - 4:23 PM
  • KEMH has obviously made a mistake and that is unfortunate but they run the most amazing perinatal loss service. Robert conducted a free memorial service for my little girl who was stillborn and 23 weeks. He is an angel. This is a genuine mistake, and while it may seem huge to the family who received the letter, their baby is alive and they should concertate on that fact. Move on and let it go people, enjoy your baby.

    Sarah Thursday 23 August, 2012 - 4:07 PM

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